I am working on a post which requires actual thinking since it's about a topic we mothers really care about: keeping our children safe. However, I feel the need to post so that y'all don't get disgusted with me for not posting and abandon me. (Needy much, Alison?) Also, I love these stories and not many people read them the first time when I originally published this on October 25, 2007.
Have I ever told you about my experience answering calls at a suicide hotline?
Well, when I was in college I thought I wanted to be a counselor. This unpaid internship at the crisis hotline was one of the reasons why I decided not to pursue that career.
I didn’t even need to look at the cards to know this was a fake story. Clue #1: It wasn’t a woman’s voice, but a man talking in falsetto. Clue #2: No woman I’ve ever known describes herself the way “she” did, listing her height, weight, body type, etc. as if for a personal ad, plus “she” just happened to have the measurements of a Playboy bunny. And Clue #3: I’d talked to this person the week before, when “she” had given the same story, only she called the jealous guy her husband instead of her boyfriend. A week ago he was your husband, and now he’s been demoted?
Once I answered the phone to hear an effeminate male voice say, “I’m wearing a skirt!”
I hung up, but I wish I’d been quick enough to say, “Well, does it match your shoes?”
At least he got right to the point so I could tell him I was hanging up right away instead of wasting my time.
Other people were just clueless. Once I talked to a young guy, probably a few years older than I, who had just found out he’d given his girlfriend herpes. I felt a little sorry for him because he seemed so remorseful. Then after we had talked for about an hour about what he should do, his tone changed as he complimented me on how sweet I was. “Oh Nicole, if we had met in real life, like in a club or something, I think we could have really hit it off. You’re exactly the type of girl I’m looking for.”
I shook my head in disbelief. First of all, Nicole is not my real name, but the pseudonym I used—all the volunteers had them as a safety measure used to protect us from stalkers. He didn't even know me at all. Second… dude! You just told me you have herpes (not to mention a girlfriend)! Do you honestly think I’d be interested? At least it became clear how he got infected. “I don’t think I can help you any further,” I told him.
Human nature will never cease to amaze me. Not least because of its capacity for self-deception. But after that I decided I wasn't cut out to be a counselor.
Wow- that is incredible! What an experience!
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I remember this post, don't I? I think so. I would not cut it as a counsellor. I'd never know when to draw the line.
ReplyDeleteAmazing, people. Sounds like you did a fine job with a difficult crowd...I couldn't have handled it so well.
ReplyDeleteYou've just confirmed for me why I don't want any job that involves talking on the phone. Or in person.
ReplyDeleteI'd wager that experinece has made you a very patient mom and a great listener.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Antique Mommy! LOL! - Leann
ReplyDeleteThe stories you must have....
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